Contact details, video-date boundaries and private reporting
Not every next step in dating requires sharing more information. This collection covers the details you choose to disclose, the boundaries of a first video call and what to record after an uncomfortable encounter. It focuses on decisions you can make for yourself, including pausing contact or using a private reporting route.
Start with the information or contact you are being asked to share.
Personal boundaries
4 GUIDESWhen to share your phone number with a dating match
Compare in-app messaging with sharing your number, decide what the number is for, and set your own voluntary threshold for moving a dating chat off the app.
Read the guidePrivacy boundaries for a first video date
Choose what background and details to reveal on a first video date, keep recording consensual, and avoid treating a call as proof of safety.
Read the guideA dating match pressures you for personal details
Separate needed meeting info from private data, respond minimally, and set a firm boundary when a match pushes for details.
Read the guideAfter a concerning date: report privately and keep a clear record
If a date felt wrong, report privately to the platform or relevant service and keep your own dated record. Avoid public accusations that identify someone.
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